Love Is…

Love is described in many dif­fer­ent views, each one either unique or sim­i­lar to the last. There are the com­mon ones:

1. You’re devoted to some­one you know that you will care about for the rest of your life.
2. Love is when you found some­one that shares the same val­ues as you do
3. You will be will­ing to do a long-distance rela­tion­ship because you know that you trust each other enough, even if you are far away.

Is there even a fourth option? It’ll just be always some­thing that relates to how the per­son feels, right? But what if you thought you love some­one… but some­thing in your mind says that it sim­ply doesn’t make sense? You wish that you could spend the rest of your life with them…but what if they don’t feel the same way? What if every­thing they were doing for you was for another rea­son, not even related to lik­ing you in the first place?

Peo­ple can say that love is the best thing in life that has ever hap­pened to them, because they found some­one that they can love and appre­ci­ate. But what about the other peo­ple around the world? A good major­ity of them wish they could be able to find that spe­cial per­son in their lives, but they can’t..why? Is it some­thing about them or their per­son­al­ity that peo­ple don’t find attrac­tive? Do they look at you in a cer­tain way and can’t seem to broaden their views about you? Then, there’s the other small per­cent­age of peo­ple who have absolutely no idea what love is to them, even though they have had sev­eral rela­tion­ships in the past that never ended the way it was meant to be. What did those past rela­tion­ships do to us? They made us fall for every­thing, when really, it was all a lie and nobody was at the bot­tom to catch us. We could only pick our­selves up off the ground, and try again, search­ing over and over for the one spe­cial per­son who hon­estly ever gave a damn about you in the very begin­ning. Even­tu­ally, we gave up look­ing for them and lost sight of who we really are as humans in this world. We don’t under­stand how it works for those cer­tain loved people…and not for us. We were fools to believe in this kind of faith, and we won­der con­stantly about what could really hap­pen if we did find some­one. Unfor­tu­nately, we can­not think that far because we feel as though every­thing around us crashed and we live in a dev­as­tated world of our own. If only our lives were sim­ple and love were right at our fin­ger­tips; yet, it’s still so far away from our reach. We live in a com­pli­cated world, and with it comes com­pli­cated situations.

Love is… complicated.

• Photo by Daniel Zim­mel / Used with Per­mis­sion

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   Tanner John Pattalia Frey says:

   April 3, 2010 at 11:21 PM

   i love you, do you know why? because it’s obvi­ous that you’ve been through exactly what i’ve been through and it com­forts me to know that other’s feel my pain.

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     Joann Liang says:

     April 22, 2010 at 12:15 AM

     it’s good to know that there are some peo­ple in the world that also under­stand. things were just fine but then sud­denly every­thing felt wrong after some­thing else had hap­pened, and with the end result, there’s sad­ness and hatred and above all, con­fu­sion. i never thought some­one else will know what i went through, but i’m glad to know that you have dealt with the same sit­u­a­tion. well at least, have expe­ri­enced the same feel­ings as i have.

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